This Mother’s Day we find ourselves reflecting on the old saying that “it takes a village to raise a child.” We feel very lucky that our girls have gotten to be nurtured by – and learn from – a wide variety of women of varying backgrounds, ages, and life experiences. We are so grateful for that. But what struck us this year, as we were talking about the themes of this blog, is that these women – our proverbial village – have done so much more for us than be there for our kids. Without them, it wouldn’t be possible for both of us to pursue our chosen careers. For both of us to continually work towards being our best selves.
Thinking about the village surrounding our kids got us thinking about our own childhoods. Our moms truly set the example for the lives we are trying to lead today. Both our moms were caught between the generation of women who never questioned staying at home with kids and the generation of women that never questioned that women’s and men’s careers could and should be valued equally. As was common among baby boomers, both our moms were primary parent by default. Yet, both our moms also worked throughout our childhoods and developed fulfilling, meaningful careers, even though both subordinated some career ambitions to our dads’ careers. Our moms taught us a lot through their determination to leverage all available resources to make it work, including cobbling together their own villages to help raise us.
So on this Mother’s Day, we want to say a huge THANK YOU to our own mothers for setting the tone. For teaching us that it’s okay to ask for help, that we don’t have to do it all alone. For always believing that we not only should, but could, always strive to be our best selves. We love you and are so grateful you are our moms.
We also want to say a huge THANK YOU to all the other “moms” in our and our kids’ lives. Some of you helped raise us to be our best selves. Some of you are helping make it possible for us to work towards being our best selves today. Some of you are helping our girls develop into their own best selves. Some of you are doing all of the above. Some of you became part of our village by dint of family ties, many by chance. Some of you only recently entered our lives, and we are so overjoyed to have met you. Too many of you have already left this world, and we miss you every day. Some of you were in our lives for only a few months, some for only a few years. Some of you have been in our lives for decades. Many of you have your own children. Many of you do not. Regardless of who you are, we know that we wouldn’t be who or where we are without you. We are so grateful for you.
Burnetta, Allegra, Roz, Janice, Jeannie, Ruth, Naomi, Rosabelle, Batina, Gillian, Karen, Melissa, Amelia, Annabelle, Maria, Theresa, Kaycee, Randi, Elaine, Rhoda, Kia, Kim, Mervat, Muzit, Jen B., Jennifer H., Jen R., Marni, Kristi, Emily, this Mother’s Day, we celebrate YOU! Happy Mother’s Day!
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